In Advance of Thanksgiving + Update on my life

Hey brothers–

It is nearly Thanksgiving, and my most memorable (to be honest, the only memorable) experience I had with the last general conference is still President Monson’s talk on gratitude. It really moved me, and helped me to be more grateful for all the good things in my life.

I’ve spoken to a few of you in the last few months, but for those of you I haven’t seen or spoken to, I’ve had some pretty major changes in my life recently. Elisa and I had been having problems in our marriage for some time, and we separated in May and I filed for divorce. I’m still in Madison, living with a roommate now in a different apartment in the same neighborhood and Elisa is living downtown in Madison. I haven’t had any direct contact with Elisa for a few months, but I think she is doing OK. Needless to say, my summer was awful, but I’ve had a lot of love and support from so many good, kind people, and I’ve been happier in the past two or three months than I’ve been for years–since I still lived in Awesome City, actually. I didn’t really want to announce this on the blog, but it’s been nearly 6 months, and I still haven’t talked to some of you, so I thought it was about time. I’d love to talk to any or all of you at any time really—I have my own cell phone now: 608.512.2582 and I can now be sure that I’ll actually get your messages when you call and be able to talk to you without being conflict or jealousy or feeling under surveillance. So what I’m saying is that I’d like to be a better friend to all of you, and I feel like I’m in a position to do that now where I may not have been before.

In addition to this little update, what I really wanted to say is that I love you and am so deeply thankful for our friendship and your goodness and kindness. The longer that I’m away from Awesome City and making my way in the world, the more I appreciate just how exceptional you men are, and how lucky and happy I feel to have known and lived with each of you. I feel as though I have real soul friends and that you have been as true brothers to me. I was thinking recently about our most recent gathering—at Mark’s wedding in SLC, and about our testimony meeting at my grandparents’ house—that was such a good time for me, and helped me to have hope for happiness and helped me to see and feel what safe, healthy, happy relationships looked and felt like—and was really important for me with things that were happening in my own personal life. Thank you brothers. This Thanksgiving, I’m especially thankful for our rich homosocial friendships, for brotherhood, for Awesome City, and for each of you. I’m so happy to hear about all the good and exciting things that you’re doing in your lives and just wanted to express my gratitude for your kindnesses and humor. It has helped me to survive and experience joy, particularly during the last several months of my life, when I’ve needed it most.


I was reading this article today about New York City mayor Michael Bloomberg. Forget the article (all he says is we need a carbon tax because cap trade is vulnerable to special interests). I was mostly struck by the picture of him. It wasn’t just that it seemed like an odd pose but also that I had actually seen it before.

Then I remembered the cover art of this late artists album Fabian Road Warrior.

Conversations with Jon

I just got off the phone with Jon Stoffer. One part of our conversation went like this:

Me: Jon why don’t you move to some tropical island like Bermuda again?
Jon: Yeah. I mean that would be cool. It would be nice…I mean I would like to get AT LEAST a girlfriend before I went there. Sitting on the beach with a girl in Bermuda? That would be SICK!
Me: (laughing) Dang Jon. That would be sick! I never thought of that. Man what am I even doing [with my life]?
Jon: I know man! You should just move in with me. I got a spot on my floor! We could get you a mattress!
Me: Man you might be on to something there Jon.
Jon: I know. See Dan you always learn something when you talk to me. You could learn a new life lesson every day.
And I’m sure I would Jon Boy.

Rock and roll!

Jordan’s post got me thinking about Spinal Tap….and I thought I’d post my favorite scene. Love this one–anytime I find myself lost, I look for a way out, and then I yell “rock and roll!” just to keep me going.


This will only happen once more this century. A day when our numerical designation for month/day/year will all be the same number.

In the past, people thought it was a cute day to get married on. I know because I got married on 8/9/8 and people were like, “Oh, why didn’t you do 8/8/8?” My answer was, of course, because 8/9/8 is “one louder.”

In honor of 11/11/11 and the above linked video. I say we all start tomorrow, the loudest day of the century, Kick Startin’ It. What do you say?


You guys should check out the new release of songs by The Boss. It’s basically a set of tracks that didn’t make the Darkness on the Edge of Town album which he and the E Street Band released in 1978. A lot of the songs have been re-recorded (which has some people freaking out) but they are still good. NPR provided a nice article and a set of songs here:

If you only want to listen to a couple I would check out Racing in the Streets (actually made the album), City of Night, Candy’s Boy, Fire, or Come On Let’s Go Tonight (which actually morphed into Factory which made the album). Like the article says, it’s interesting that he came out with a set of songs that have more of lighthearted and pop-like feel while writing an album that has a darker feel.

Anyways, enjoy.